On the shallowness of the Pretty

[dangermousie]

I wonder if it's the residual mechanism left over from our Cromagnon days, but whenever I see a gorgeous man on the street (doesn't happen too often) my day is just a bit better. I have no desire to speak to him, or take him home, or even to stare for him longer than a milisecond, but that milisecond is always so nice. I was coming back from lunch today, carrying my eel sonomono, and saw a tall, business-casual-dressed, blond-floppy-haired, late-20s guy running by. He had a nice body and a handsome face. Don't know him from Adam, and have no desire to, but it's just nice to know there's beauty in the world (male, that is. Girls don't really do it for me :D).

On a related, and very unfeminist note, I must confess I love it when men check me out on the street. It's a great ego boost, I love attention, and after all, I'll be old and lose it soon enough... Of course, most verbal comments come from homeless guys which are probably happy to see anything in a skirt. But the non-verbal ones from the non-desperate are nice.

Yeah, this is probably the shallowest and most conceited post I've ever written. Blame it on the hot day.

Comments

[plazmah.livejournal.com]

Hmm, pretty people don't make me happy. Just bitter that I am not :\

[savingmykisses.livejournal.com]

I've seen your pic, and you ARE, fool.

[elvensapphire.livejournal.com]

Pretty boys make me happy, too. Because teh yum is a good smile factor.

Girls don't work because (other than the fact that I like men) it makes me shallow and insecure. Heh. And everyone appreciates compliments. From the non-desperate and non-cheesy. Those are hard to come by. ;)

[grace-om.livejournal.com]

On a related, and very unfeminist note, I must confess I love it when men check me out on the street. It's a great ego boost, I love attention, and after all, I'll be old and lose it soon enough... Of course, most verbal comments come from homeless guys which are probably happy to see anything in a skirt. But the non-verbal ones from the non-desperate are nice.

I highly recommend a trip to a Latin country. Many moons ago (before I became an old married matron, and before Cancun became a "girls-gone-wild" spring break hang-out), I took myself off for some much needed R & R. At first the *constant* comments from strange men freaked me out, but then I made friends with a Puerto Rican woman who eased my paranoia about that aspect of the culture.

The highlight was a young boy of no more than 14 who literally got on his knees and said (in pretty good English too), "Beautiful lady, if you don't come to the disco with me tonight, I will surely die." I'm not kidding! While I did not make a date, all these years later thee memory still makes me smile ;->

Anyway, I did get rather used to it, and for a while after I returned home I wondered why I no longer had any appeal :-D.

Grace

[dangermousie.livejournal.com]

I am flexible on cheesy (hey, they might make me laugh but they are still praise to the needy that is MEEEEEEEE), but the desperate is a turn-off. If you haven't bathed in a week, you are not really dream material.

[dangermousie.livejournal.com]

LOL. I usually travel with my husband which puts the crimp into the complimenting business.

I do remember being in Paris with two girlfriends and the taxi driver taking us to our hotel treating us to the ride because (he said) he "was our protector" :)

[elvensapphire.livejournal.com]

Well, it depends what the cheesy is. If it's Anakin/Padmé dialogue, then I LOVE it and it makes me cry. Because I'm a sap. If it's any of the lines I've gotten...I can do without. (Case in point: I was in class once and the guy next to me said something about the fact that maybe he was dead. And I looked at him like he was nuts and basically said, "Wah?" to which he replied, "Because...I'm looking at an angel." Oh. Gag me with a spoon.) And yes, bathing helps. Lots. :D

[dangermousie.livejournal.com]

Maybe it's because he didn't look like Hayden. :D

[elvensapphire.livejournal.com]

LOL! Actually...that's exactly what it was. Considering that I was near the same guy and my best girlfriend sometime after that and he said something equally stupid and I turned to her, whispering, "Um...Do you look like Hayden Christensen?! I didn't think so." This has gone on to become a running joke between us. I love that we fangirls all think alike.

[dangermousie.livejournal.com]

It's the fangirl mind-meld

[katranna.livejournal.com]

See why it sucks being straight (or gay)?

I get twice as many happy milliseconds!

Though I'd wager it has more to do with my aestheticism, 'cause I get just as happy looking at trees.

[katranna.livejournal.com]

When I was in France, I was always confused as to why some American girls took the men's comments there so badly. What I liked is that unlike the American men who whistle at you, French men's comments were meant to celebrate your beauty; not appropriate it. And it was obvious they didn't expect anything from you--it was just, when they saw someone pretty, they wanted to tell them they were pretty. It was very nice.

[dangermousie.livejournal.com]

But hey, if you are as picky as you are, you probably get less happy seconds than I do :)

[katranna.livejournal.com]

I'm not as picky with girls. :-)

[plazmah.livejournal.com]

Lies, I tell you! LIES!

[savingmykisses.livejournal.com]

If you were a laser, you'd be set to stunning!!!


(these are the kinds of messages I get on myspace - this being the tamest. If you continue to deny your obvious beauty, then I will be forced to use ALL of the bizarre messages I've received on you.)


So there.

[plazmah.livejournal.com]

Feh. I just take good pictures. Makeup is a gift from the gods.

[plazmah.livejournal.com]

I like to describe myself as "heteroflexible" ;)

[plazmah.livejournal.com]

I don't think I'll ever get used to men complimenting me. I'll always percieve it as some ploy to get action, or some sort of perverse sarcastic mocking technique.